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Hey, this is Dean Cortez from Mack Tactics with some more strategies on how to take your confidence to a new level.

I want to show you a letter from a reader that asks a very important question about how to get girls, and then I’ll give my response…

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Hey Dean,

There’s this girl that I’ve liked for more than a year. A couple of weeks ago the guy she’d been dating broke up with her.

So I was hanging out with her a few days ago, and I finally built up the courage to to her, “Hey, in all honesty, would you ever date a guy like me?”

She told me, “Well, honestly…you’re too nice. For some reason, I like jerks. I know that sounds bad, but it’s the truth.”

I was a bit stunned and didn’t know what to say. So I just played it off like I was joking, and wasn’t really into her, but inside I felt crushed.

I guess it’s true what they say: “nice guys finish last.” I can’t understand this, Dean — why girls always seem to go for guys who are liars and creeps, while nice guys like myself get left out in the cold.

I’m really hoping you have an answer to this…

- Vincent, California

>>>DEAN CORTEZ RESPONDS:>>>

Dean Cortez here. Before I got good with women and mastered this “game,” I was once a classic example of a Nice Guy.

When I reflect on how many hot women I COULD have scored with…but didn’t, because my weak “Nice Guy” approach messed everything up…I want to bang my head into the wall!

Back in those days, when I liked a girl, I always made myself available to her. I’d talk with her on the phone, or on the Internet, for as long as she wanted to. If she asked me to meet up and do something, I’d drop whatever I was doing and go see her.

If she was having problems with whatever jerk she was currently sleeping with, I’d listen to her and try to be supportive.

Basically, instead of working on making her feel SEXUAL ATTRACTION towards me, I behaved like her “friend” who didn’t have any romantic intentions.

I tried to act as if I wasn’t like “those other guys” who only wanted to sleep with her.

Of course, the whole time I was pretending to be “Mr. Nice Guy,” all I could THINK about was sleeping with her…

I made the huge mistake that so many men make — thinking that building a FRIENDSHIP first was going to get me the girlfriend later, if only I was patient enough.

But as you probably know, it never pans out this way. The guy keeps suffering in the “Friend Zone” until one of two things happens (and both outcomes are bad):

1. One night he finally “works up the courage” to confess to her how he really feels — and she totally shoots him down that results in a rejection.

2. Or, she starts dating another guy who doesn’t want her “Nice Guy” friend hanging around. So, she stops hanging out him completely.

(Think about it, if you were dating a girl, would you want her “Nice Guy” buddy hanging around her all the time, obviously hoping to get in her pants? Of course not, you’d tell your girl to stop spending time with him.)

Look, I want to clarify some misunderstandings about Nice Guys and Bad Boys — because the reality is, “Nice Guys” really aren’t as sweet and honest as they like to say they are.

Actually, Nice Guys lie MORE than Bad Boys do

Think about it…

When a Nice Guy is hanging out with a woman he is HOPING to hook up with, everything he does is a deception!

The whole “friendship” he is building with the girl is a cover-up for his REAL agenda. He really just wants to get her into bed! He is using this friendship as a TACTIC to try to get what he is truly after.

Unfortunately, it’s a very ineffective tactic. It doesn’t work. And don’t think you’re fooling the girl: if she knows that she is sexually attractive, and she knows you’re a heterosexual MAN with needs, then obviously she knows you want to sleep with her.

Women know what the Nice Guy is REALLY trying to get from this “friendship”. But she’s not going to give it to him, because he isn’t demonstrating any of the qualities that she finds SEXUALLY ATTRACTIVE in a man.

The Nice Guy is projecting weakness instead of confidence. He’s also showing that he is completely available to hang out with her whenever she wants, instead of being a man with a busy social life and OTHER options.

(Don’t forget, girls want a guy who is wanted by other women! They are highly competitive!)

Bad Boys DO have these qualities that women are PROGRAMMED to pursue. And when Bad Boys talk to women, they do so in a flirty, sexual, masculine way.

I have a good buddy who is total Bad Boy with women. He’s not some tattooed UFC fighter, rock musician, or strip club bouncer. In fact, he wears a suit every day to his 9-to-5 corporate job.

But when he approaches and talks with women, he projects a total Bad Boy vibe. This means he is cocky, playful and ultra-confident — and he also acts like he is HARD to impress, no matter how hot she is.

I was with him at a bar a few nights ago. He said to a girl…

“I hope your boyfriend isn’t here, because I’m about to totally flirt with you. How can you blame me, when you’re wearing an outfit like that?”

He delivered this opener with a confident smile and the correct body language. He then transitioned into the conversation with no delay (this is all explained in the Mack Tactics “Ultimate Approach” book), and started moving things in the right direction.

He asked her some clever questions to get her sharing things about herself, and then he said to her:

“You’re actually pretty cool, it’s a shame that it would never work out between us. You’re nothing like the girls I usually date.”

Then he immediately switched the conversation to a new topic. He didn’t give her any further explanation — which messed with her mind a bit, and made her want to PROVE that she was worthy of dating a guy him!

A few minutes later he started talking to her about how he loves getting a good massage. He said to her, “If you know how to give amazing massages, then this MIGHT work out between us. If not, it’s ok, I can be your wingman tonight and help you meet a guy.”

(This is a cool game to play with a girl. Tell her you’re going to be HER wingman! Then point out some guys in the room that you know she will TOTALLY NOT be into, and offer to hook her up…she will laugh and squirm…then keep teasing her and flirting.)

Then he used another textbook “Bad Boy” tactic on her: he WALKED AWAY.

Yes! He told her he had to go see some friends and that he’d come back and talk to her a little later.

Then he ditched her and hung out with me and my buddies for 10 minutes. We were all joking around and having a good time, and the whole time, the girl was WATCHING him and WAITING for him to come back and keep talking to her!

Eventually, he did…and a short time after that, he used a “Deal Closer” tactic to extract her from the club and bring her home.

The *trick* to getting really successful with females is to add a “Bad Boy Edge” to your game that conveys confidence and masculinity.

I’m not saying you need to act like a jerk, or disrespect women. Women are not “into” those qualities. Rather, they will ACCEPT these qualities from a Bad Boy who she is powerfully attracted to.

You can be the best of both worlds: a man with confidence and integrity, but one who also has the BAD BOY EDGE that makes women desire you in a sexual way — not just “as a friend.”

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